Kindness From Their Perspective
Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, considerate, selfless, and caring. As we live with others, spreading kindness is core to having a positive community. And in spreading kindness, it is useful; we do not attach judgment to it.
As simple as it seems, the saying holds significant power, and with its daily demands, its application can influence positive outcomes.
Judging the situations of others after and before spreading kindness dilutes the essence of kindness in its entirety. Being kind and not judging is key.
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A judgmental person is overly critical, quickly forming unwanted options and perceptions about others, arising situations, or life aspects. As opposed to being excessively judgmental, there is a need to take time to evaluate conditions and consider matters from all perspectives. Others also have their side of the story.
Each day, everyone has their issues, wins and loses. This means we possess the diversity that defines who we are and what we do with our time. And in this sometimes complicated and sometimes fantastic world, there arise that require receiving a kind gesture from others as a key in allowing us to get through the days and challenges we face.
No matter where in life we are, kindness has excellent outcomes personally and across the wider society, as long as we spread it without being judgmental of others. Some of these are:
- Kindness gives us peace, building our confidence feelings by doing good
- Kindness creates a happier environment as others also get the kind gesture
- Kindness is core in boosting our optimism as the world becomes caring
- Kindness is core in encouraging others to spread the same across the world
- Kindness is core to positive communities; we create and spread kindness
Being kind is not a street, and giving the same has the power to return to us in massive ways. Similarly, being kind and exploring ways to spread kindness provides us with a sense of peace, which manifests in how our bodies behave.
As opposed to feeling saddened and disappointed, knowing we were kind to others is core in raising our mood. And in spreading kindness, there is a need to eliminate judgmental thoughts and actions.
The Kind and the Judge: Who is Right?
The judgmental one:
- Is very critical of others
- Is always exhibiting negativity and condemning
- Is one who focuses on appearance while choosing friends
- Is constantly making moral evaluations based on minor details
- Is always demanding others to be perfect in everything
- Is always feeling better and elevated after judging others
- Is always fault-finding using their moralistic point of view
- Is always ……… many more …………….
But one might ask, what led to the overall feeling that of the two, the judgmental person is the lesser one. And the one who shows kindness is the greater one. Or the kind one is the lesser and the judgmental one the greater? It all comes down to the aspects we hold in life.
As much as we try to be the best and contribute to the rise of our inner selves in the various life domains, there are times when we are kind and others when we are judgmental. However, this strictly defined line does not have to define your life. As the holders of the thoughts we wish to explore and the actions we desire to show the world, there is power in controlling what comes out.
As opposed to being constantly judgmental, putting one in others' shoes and envisioning their state can be essential in getting a varied perspective. Life does not have to be perfect, yet it must be excellent. And in its amazingness is the demand that we all treat each other well and operate favorably so that others can borrow.
Everyone has their demons, and what differentiates one's demons from another's is the scope of their impacts and their magnitude. Given the diversity we hold as humans, some incidences might become challenging to make one remain kind.
Forced by situations, we tend to push away our kind nature, focus on the bad and see others in a judgmental manner.
What can we do
A friend always tells me, "There is always an alternative to anything." So whether we have been wronged in the past or feel that the world is against us in all aspects, we always have an alternative. We can spread kindness by:
- Being caring and aware of other's feelings, needs, and insecurities
- Being a role model for others and someone they can look up to
- Being there as a shoulder to lean on when someone faces life issues
- Being someone's ear to others in a non-judgmental manner
- Being caring and supportive of others' dreams and goals
- Being realistic and using kind words when talking with others
- Being a volunteer and helping others in need without being asked
- Being ….. …… …… …….
Kindness acts are many. And as long as we co-exist together, there is always a way that we can spread kindness and receive the same in various ways. Kindness is not restricted within the home, and is it something learned in the classroom or predefined in the workplace? It is a global aspect and does not know any boundaries.
Our choices impact how we treat others, which translates to the kindness we offer. Hence, when faced with a demanding and challenging life aspect, here are some ideas:
- Consider the case from a child's perspective. What will a child do? As we get older, this approach is because our vast knowledge and feeling of entitlement blind our actions. Or makes inactive.
- Consider the case from others' perspectives. Will they get hurt if it is done to them? Is this bad for the relationship? Then do the right thing.
- Consider the case from the end goal. If the future outcome of something offers more benefits, there is no need to burn the bridge right now. However, some cases hinder our lives and dreams. In such cases, burning bridges can grow. There is no nobility in being stagnant.
As We Close
Remember, Kindness is a renewable resource, and in giving it out, we have a way of becoming our better selves while also making those around us better. No matter the situation one is in and across the various life phases, the remaining kind has massive positive implications. There is the reciprocation of the same kindness to us by acting kind toward others.
More Kindness and Less Judging; Build a Kind Community Around Us.A little more kindness, a little less judgment, and the world will be a better place for you and for me.